Part of it was because I didn’t like to leave people in the lurch. Another part was because I didn’t want to disappoint others. There was also a part of me felt that saying no could mean burning bridges with others (a deep-set part of the Asian culture), and I didn’t want to jeopardize my relationships with others.
Reality of Saying Yes
While saying yes might seem like an easy way out of the conundrum above, in reality it was a terrible solution.
Because while it provided quick short-term relief – avoiding confrontation with others and dealing with uncomfortable emotions – saying yes has its own long-term implications. Because every time we say yes to something, we say no to our own priorities. Consider the following: